Fall has something magical to it. The way the leaves change their color into an undefinably beautiful tone of red and orange, how they learn to let go and dance in the wind until they fall to the ground where they rest until a child comes to pick them up…
Fall dips the world into one of its own – I sense it as an almost alluring way to come back down to earth after so many months of summer. It calms our restless hearts as we spend more time in our own surroundings as well as with ourselves. It’s always been the season that has fascinated me the most, and at the same time, showed me how beautiful it can be to see things change.
Tonight, I am writing about letting go of things that we cannot change. This is a phenomena that has stroke me more this year than it has done in the previous ones. More to say, I have really accepted this realization for the first time of my being. This, perhaps, is partly due to the turbulences that have occurred in my life these past weeks, which have caused me to really place my focus on what and who is really important to my happiness and inner peace. Surely this is easy said, but certainly not done.
More often than not, we find ourselves occupied with thinking what has gone wrong in our days. We tend to repeatedly center our attention on negativities, that either vibe from people, from places or from occurrences. We ponder about all the things that we would like to change, and recurrently, forget what we already have. We spend days, weeks and long nights getting wrapped up in the things we are currently not happy with. What I’ve learnt though, is to change the things that are in my power to change and accept the things that I cannot change. Because most of the time, your circumstances, and most certainly your past, won’t change. We create images in our minds, where our imperfect circumstances become ideal, which cause unhappiness deep down if they don’t occur this way. May this be the state of life you’re in right now, school, university, work, or the people you don’t seem to connect with on a deeper level. Nothing around us will ever live up to our expectations to a full extent. Stuck in the psychological construct, that as long as these things weren’t properly in place and exactly how I would want them to be, I thought I would never be completely happy. Freeing myself from this myth, however, I’ve accepted that there are a few things that we cannot change. I’ve learnt to minimize the circle of people I am truly concerned with and eliminated the rest mentally. Opening our hearts to only the chosen ones and consciously keeping the other ones out – the ones that we constantly try to please or be liked by – is what will bring true peace to our minds. We are who we are, and are beautiful for exactly that reason. Focusing on that and knowing our worth, we can walk a much clearer path in life. Sharpen your view and concentrate on the essentials and through this – find your personal key to contentment.
Life is short, and it’s too short to waste your time on things that don’t contribute to your personal growth as well as inner peace. The art of living lays within the ability to accept the things that are out of our reach, and by doing this, you will notice to live a much purer and honest version of yourself. If we don’t let go, we risk missing the chance of something new coming our way. You will see, the best things are let into your life by just letting it happen, every day. And just as the leaves change their color and fall to the ground by nature, they show us that letting go makes way for something much more magnificent.
Love,
Joana
Joana Serein 